Become Wiser?

It's almost at the end of the year, and yet I've learnt a lot of things lately. Life is always interesting. It could suddenly gave you one moment which opens your mind and changes how you view the world. Well, not the whole world of course.. at least several things around your life. 

For quite some times I had some thought in my mind, about some friends, about things that they do, I was trying to question why they did several things and had that thought in their mind, which are quite different with mine. I didn't know what I was looking for actually. I just knew that sometimes I felt heavy around them.

Until one day I had the chance to have interesting talk with one friend, where I shared all those thoughts and brought all my questions.

I felt difficult sometimes to understand why people like to buy very very expensive things, why they are not opened and like to hide whatever they are hiding, and having that kind of mask, why they choose this and that way which often brings our relationship or friendship to a cross road.
It's easy if they are just people that you just know or you don't know.. but if they are your own friends.. that's sometimes difficult to face. Often we tried to persuade them to follow what we think is right, but on the other hand it might not be also always right.
At the end, what I learnt from my friend is that, first yes I should try to understand.. but to understand the possible reason or the background why they become like that. Don't try to understand why they do this and that. Maybe they don't know either. Then, to accept them.. accept it if at one point the friendship will change. Sad? yes, of course. Everybody maybe has that experience, where they see a friend is no longer the same friend they used to know. But that makes you feel lighter. You don't expect much from your friends. He is what he is.

I think becoming wiser means being able to lighter your thought. When it's heavy, it's difficult to see around. I don't know. I will try to think like that every time I feel heavy or disappointed with a friend. Just 2 things above, then I should be able to lighter my mind.